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by Tarantula
Tue Aug 24, 2021 5:15 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Worried I will never have a child
Replies: 41
Views: 18735

Re: Worried I will never have a child

You should have got out years and years ago. Life is still too short for this. At 37, there's a decent chance she would require fertility treatment in order to have a child. In that case, you'd be in for a long, expensive and emotional ride - one that would require you both to be really serious abou...
by Tarantula
Mon Jul 05, 2021 8:15 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: The Dreaded Ex.
Replies: 8
Views: 425

Re: The Dreaded Ex.

Sorry, but his tanks are so much further in than just your borders. He is on her phone, in her mind and, above all, higher than you in her priorities. And that's all at best . At worst, well, is she where she says she is, when she's out of the house? Obviously, she still has strong feelings for him,...
by Tarantula
Tue May 25, 2021 11:10 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: What should I make of this? Confused
Replies: 7
Views: 856

Re: What should I make of this? Confused

To me, it's fairly obvious that he's got NPD and may well be doing more than chatting innocently with others. He became enraged when you called him out on his nonsense. Then he tried to make it all your fault without taking any responsibility for his part. He uses physical intimidation, to remind yo...
by Tarantula
Tue Aug 18, 2020 5:12 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Still going on
Replies: 5
Views: 2234

Re: Still going on

He's kinda using you to try and egg himself on to get out of his unhappy marriage. He needs more momentum before he can do it - to know that there'll be someone waiting.

Out of respect for your husband, you should cut contact. It's been nine years. Enough.
by Tarantula
Sun May 17, 2020 12:24 pm
Forum: Mental wellbeing
Topic: He has made me feel like ending it all
Replies: 1
Views: 2563

Re: He has made me feel like ending it all

Hi there I sympathise with your situation and feel that there's little I can say that, as an addiction counsellor, you do not already know. So, fine, let me say things that you already know deep down, but are perhaps not ready to accept. Your presence in his life is enabling his addiction. He doesn'...
by Tarantula
Mon May 11, 2020 1:38 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Confused is not the word.
Replies: 4
Views: 2926

Re: Confused is not the word.

Reckoner dropping them truth bombs. Sorry to be the hysterical woman from the Simpsons, but will somebody please think of the children?? I mean, what kind of example are you all modelling for your kids' future relationships. All this sleeping around, drinking, on/off, lies, low status behaviour... i...
by Tarantula
Wed Apr 15, 2020 1:06 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Obsessed with a guy I barely know
Replies: 2
Views: 1941

Re: Obsessed with a guy I barely know

Heya, I think you should do nothing. He already knows you're keen - but he hasn't asked you out. I'm sorry, he's just not that into you. He doesn't sound shy, if he's happy to kiss you and tell you how beautiful you are. Most likely, he's in a relationship. You've already made enough moves. Approach...
by Tarantula
Sat Mar 14, 2020 8:05 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Infatuation
Replies: 6
Views: 2616

Re: Infatuation

Yeah I mean if you go for dinner with him, that's not on. You're literally accepting to go out with a man you find attractive, who asked to spend time with you one on one. In the evening. No one is that naive. Hope you don't lie to your boyfriend going 'it's just a friend thing!!!!!!' I'd think very...
by Tarantula
Tue Mar 10, 2020 8:20 am
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Infatuation
Replies: 6
Views: 2616

Re: Infatuation

I feel bad for your man. I mean you say you haven't done anything wrong, but I'm not sure. Feelings are one thing - specifically buying new outfits/dressing up etc so that another man notices you - that's crossing a line. Beak up with your partner if it's so easy for some random older guy to get you...
by Tarantula
Wed Mar 04, 2020 3:50 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: What are his intentions?
Replies: 1
Views: 1495

Re: What are his intentions?

Never mind him, what are YOUR intentions? He's got a girlfriend. I'd stay out of it if I were you. This is a recipe for drama and hurt feelings. You know there's no 'being friends' with someone you've dated, one or both of you will be hoping it goes somewhere, and one of you will end up disappointed...
by Tarantula
Tue Mar 03, 2020 6:11 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: When is it right?
Replies: 2
Views: 1780

Re: When is it right?

Agree with snail (again). Dating around is fine, sleeping around isn't. It just gets complicated from that point and someone ends up with the hurtings. If either ask about your status, be honest, say you're speaking to a few women and seeing how things go. Then bring the conversation back to her and...
by Tarantula
Tue Mar 03, 2020 6:08 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Social media boundaries
Replies: 4
Views: 2367

Re: Social media boundaries

Hey there, 29yo engaged lady here, though I believe that doesn't really matter as I reckon most men would not be happy if their partner was doing this, either - yeah, agree with snail, totally inappropes. Disrespectful to you and your relationship - ESPECIALLY if he carries on once you've brought it...
by Tarantula
Fri Feb 14, 2020 9:58 am
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Will I ever get over it?
Replies: 3
Views: 2048

Re: Will I ever get over it?

Hey there I agree with reckoner's very thoughtful input, and would like to add a practical suggestion: Have you thought about writing him a letter, or even meeting in person? I know that nothing quite eats you up inside like things left unsaid, and at this point, what have you to lose? Of course, su...
by Tarantula
Fri Jan 17, 2020 1:11 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Break up / reconciliation?
Replies: 3
Views: 1725

Re: Break up / reconciliation?

She's a liar and you should tell her ex's poor girlfriend so that she isn't wasting more time. But that would require some guts. I don't know if you have them? Of course she and her ex got busy whilst on holiday - to believe anything else would be horribly naive. Think about it. They were together b...
by Tarantula
Sat Jan 04, 2020 11:04 am
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Do i walk away??
Replies: 3
Views: 1744

Re: Do i walk away??

Hmmmm sounds pretty intense. I don't think he's done anything wrong, but he seems to have trust issues and perhaps it's all moving too quickly for him. I know you meant that comment flippantly, but if he has been cheated on in the past then it would've come across as 'if you don't want me, I'll go o...