HI, I have a lovely relationship, two years, he has asked me to move in.
But there are a few obstacles to us moving on. I am 60 and dont want to be alone for ever but my boyfriend lives in an old house which needs much tlc, has no washing machine, I do his washing and ironing.All okay with me BUT he has a young woman lodger, has been there 20 years! She pays very little rent doesn't pay any other households bills and is supposed to clean but washing up gets left piled up. Also has 4 dogs. Only works part time and spends rest of time with dogs. My boyfriend basically supports her lifestyle, while I'm alone all week and manage by myself. It's a real issue, which I struggle with. He always sticks up for her, and I'm wondering if he has feelings,although he denies this. I see no future in this, I can't live in a house where another woman rules the roost, I feel we can't be a normal couple together there. I wish I'd stopped this two years ago but I dont know whether to continue to live alone till seeing him weekends. (Carry on as usual)or stop the relationship altogether or put up that she will always be there with her dogs!