) constantly going on at me about a young woman at work and that we should go out and date each other.It started Xmas before last, at the office night out when she told me when she was drunk - I wasn't sure whether to believe her but now several people in the office have been on about it now including my female supervisor!
Yes I am single (I'm 40, she's 32), but I just simply don't feel anything for her. I don't know what she sees in me - but the others have said it is because I such a nice guy, a gentleman, not rowdy and horrid and like cats same as she does.
Well as one other girl at the office said, I should feel complimented - but I don't really. It sounds awful I know, but I almost feel a bit "Why did she have to fancy me?".
Don't get me wrong, I don't dislike the woman, I chat to her often, she's friendly enough, and she partly trained me when I first started there 3 years ago. But I've never really wanted to go out with her - there's no spark from me and I know this sounds horrible but I can't fancy her. Plus her background is a bit different to mine, she was living with a previous boyfriend before and even though they broke up years ago, she's still texting him. She in the meantime has been out with dozens of other blokes and hasn't got very far (after she's slept with many of them) and they have all fizzled out but she intended them to be temporary anyway. While I don't like the sound of that, the others in the office have all said "Well she's stopped that now and now wants one nice guy" etc. But also her parents split up a few years back and aren't together now, whereas mine stayed together forever (Until my dad passed away 18 years ago). She also can drink far more booze than I can and handle it (well before eventually being sick some nights) and I don't like drinking a lot or getting a hangover, although I'm not a tee totaller.
Again the other workmates just said "That was just a phase" . But the annoying thing is that people keep bringing the subject up about me and her like a stupid wind up and it's just annoying! They seem to want a romance in my workplace section and think they're helping the 2 of us out, because we are both single! D'oh!!
Oh please!!If I was interested in her I would have said by now!! Look I don't hate her, I enjoy just chatting to pass the time of the day with her but I've never ever felt anything for her. I often forget about her. I know some would say "Someone's staring you in the face and you won't see that she could be the one", no - Rubbish.
Also why can't they all mind their own business??!!
And - I more or less have decided I may as well stay single now (a long story), but I have had nothing but dissapointments with my dating history, had a couple of weirdo women want to keep seeing me when I was put off by them either on the first date or after getting to know them and several others didn't ask to see me after the first date. So I've just given up now.
I like my own company a lot (although I do have good mates outside of work I see from time to time). But my friends also think that an outgoing person would be good for me as it would bring me out of my shell, but I have recently discovered that I have Asperger's syndrome and have an odder sense of humour and half the time never know whether people are joking or teasing and often don't find people's teasing very funny.
A relationship has to work both ways and both people have to have a spark and it's not there with me. I've also had mad crushes on a few different women/girls over the years and felt pretty stupid later when it didn't work out or I was the last person they wanted to go out with! I don't want to be a fool again, so I'm better off out of it. One workmate thinks I'm writing myself off, I don't look at it that way. I know this is different with this woman, but I don't have loving feeling for her or anybody else - I've lost the romantic dreamy feeling for any female now. It would take a LOT to bring it back.
If someone is meant for me I will know, and it hasn't happened yet.
