Ok, that’s one reasoned and very valid opinion. On relationships, I bow down to B_C every time!
But not on this.
Another opinion is this; if you have even the slightest qualms about going for an abortion, you shouldn’t do it – if you feel afterwards that you have made the wrong choice, you will have to live with it for the rest of your life, and I’ve seen serious fallout from that kind of decision. You are concerned about it, so you haven’t yet made up your mind. It’s something you’re going to have to decide for yourself, it’s not up to your friends or family to say “I’d do this or that”. It’s your life and future, and the life and future of your baby.
Apart from the completely black and white opinions of do it or don’t do it; - you are 22, not 14. You say you want this baby – so you’re a long way towards making the decision - but you are scared to death and not sure you’re ready. Petal, I know couples who have planned, scrimped and saved, gone to the edge of the springboard, stepped back, gone to the edge again, and jumped off. I don’t know any parent who hasn’t agonised about whether or not they’re ready or, afterwards, whether they are coping, or whether they’re being good parents. And I know fathers who thought the easy way out was to get an abortion – until they saw their son or daughter, and realised they adored their offspring and couldn’t cop out.
You do have the emotional capacity to cope with this, and I really don’t understand why your partner shouldn’t step up and do his duty. It might mean that your life will take a different direction to the one you had expected – but not necessarily a worse direction, and definitely not a less fulfilling one.
Honey, listen to your mind, but listen to your heart too. Because it’s your heart which will rejoice or grieve over your decisions, not your mind.
Lots of love
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Pee
Shine your light and let the whole world see.