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My parents are dirt poor

Postby anonl » Sat Jun 04, 2016 7:50 pm

I am 38 with three older siblings.I have a problem that may be unusual but early depresses me. Most people seem to have wealthy baby boomer parents and a huge inheritance coming their way but my parents are dirt poor. Both are on pension credit as they never saved for retirement and both have no savings at all. Meanwhile, my wife's parents have a yaught and 2 properties and have given us a house to live in and are always spooling us rotten. They seem to have an endless reservoire of money
Meanwhile, my parents are dirt poor who now own no property. Both are highly educated but are very much of the hippy era were by they never really wanted to be rich as a status symbol and still don't. This really upsets and embarrasses me as most people have very solid income parents of my generation. I love both parents dearly and want the best for them and am close to both, but I feel really on the fringes of society because of their circumstances. They have both been really generous to me when they where able in the past but that is not the issue. However, botoh never saved for pensions due to their strong socialist principles. The issue is I feel a freak, a total outsider and do not even disclose how poor both my parent are to my wife.
A few years ago my father asked me and my siblings to take him as he left his job a few years earlier and now could no longer afford to pay rent.He was destitute. It all worked out however and he got unemployment benefit and a flat so the emergency was over. Now my mother tell me my grandmothers care house bills have risen and this is going to totally impoverish her even more down the line. Already my grandmothers home was sold to pay for care home bills for her and because she is living for ages, and it is likely that my mother will soon be forced to pick up the pieces as her money will soon run out.
I am not stressed,must sometimes feel so sad, depressed and lonely over how my parents are not like most others with their very comfortable incomes. We are very much on the fringes of society.
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Re: My parents are dirt poor

Postby anonl » Sat Jun 04, 2016 8:22 pm

It is worth noting, neither my parents are alcoholics or addicts. Myself and my older siblings are all highly functional with reasonably good jobs.
It's a really weird situation. My parents are dirt poor but because of their education mostly mix in middle class society. This makes the whole thing seem even more weird and lonely.
If I'm honest, it has made me very shy and lacking confidence socially as most people could never in a million years relate to my situation as most have parents with very solid incomes.I feel jealous of my peers not that I want money off my parents at all. It is just that they are completely unlike any other people.
Both are separated as they could never afford a divorce.

Opinions anyone? Reassurance? I am guessing few can relate to this situation so even on a problem page I feel isolated here.
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Re: My parents are dirt poor

Postby Mrconfused74 » Wed Jun 08, 2016 9:27 pm

My parents don't have money, and seem to work from week to week, doesn't make me feel any different about them. It seems to me that your issue is that you wish they would be able to spoil you and your partner like her parents do. People Re different, have any of your family ever had money? If not then it shouldn't be an issue for you, there was never anything there for you so you shouldn't expect it now. What you should concentrate on is making sure you and your family have money, that you can pass to your kids.
Or are you worried that you will end up having to care for them when they are older? That would make more sense, yes they should've put money aside for their latter years and I think you're concerned you'll end up with paying for them.
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