I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year, we live four hours apart and he is a couple of years younger than me. We’ve been arguing a lot lately due to the distance. He has an extremely busy life work, college, and about a million hobbies which I can’t keep up with and a fairly good social life as well as demanding jobs from his family. I’m the opposite, go to work every day and then just go home and relax in the evenings, going out once or twice a week and visiting family, generally not having the best social life, but going out with friends now and again. We see each other every two weekends, taking it in turns to travel.
At the beginning he was wonderful always in contact always calling, taking up most of my time. But a few months down the line the contact is becoming less and less… because of his busy life, he rarely has time to talk to me anymore. I feel like I miss him so much that when I have spare moments in the evening to talk he just isn’t there to listen, I’m so in love with him but I feel like he just doesn’t feel the same way anymore and can’t make time for me. I keep telling him how I feel and that I would like him to speak to me more, but he then withdraws himself more. Then when I finally do get through to him, he’s communicates with me a fair bit like texting throughout the day when he has a spare moment and one call maybe which is perfect but then a few days later he goes back to the way he was… like yesterday I had one text in the morning, and then by time he was done with work and his hobbies he had to go to bed… and I never got to speak to him.
I just don’t know what to do, and for some reason I just can’t let him go, and I get the feeling that he probably wants to end this. His excuse is always being busy and that it doesn’t take a few seconds to contact me as my messages are so long… so I’m just not really sure how much contact a long distance relationship actually needs and if I’m asking for too much? All I’m asking for is a text every couple of hours to check in, a phone call a day and texting for an hour or so (not constantly) before bed. I keep making suggestions and plans of how to resolve this but he keeps saying plans won’t work… he and his parents also think that a relationship shouldn’t have to require any work or effort, and that it should come natural! I completely don’t agree as a feel that two people need to work together to make it last.
I just need help!
Thanks in advance

