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boulding
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Re: Second time marriage and I'm bored

Post by boulding » Sat Feb 24, 2018 1:10 pm

A marriage bond means both partners putting each other first.
Of course there are times when a child (of any age) will have priority such as when your stepson needed a place until he found somewhere but the idea that a man in his twenties could plonk himself down on a new marriage for three long years and cause trouble is outrageous.
Also a lot of your wife’s attention will no doubt now be focussed on her daughter and the new arrival but this should not mean that you are side lined or pushed into second place.
Possibly your wife was on her own with the children for a while and naturally they were the centre of her world and perhaps she had difficulty letting go when they flew the nest and she cannot focus on her relationship with you.
Only you know what your feelings are but undoubtedly there is hurt, disillusionment, a feeling of being disrespected and quite possibly suppressed resentment and anger.
Perhaps you have difficulty communicating but you have to have a serious conversation with her and get her to acknowledge your feelings. There needs to be change and she needs to start valuing her marriage. There were feelings there to start with and either these feelings can be rekindled or you need to make serious plans to leave. You are still young enough to make a new life with someone who values you.

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