by gillbee » Mon Jan 09, 2017 9:35 am
I am in a relationship, which I've posted about before on another thread. To cut a long story short, my partner left his wife for me two years ago and has been living with me ever since. The relationship hasn't been happy, he's been extremely verbally abusive on many, many occasions and is jealous, controlling and possessive. I've only stayed in a relationship with him because I felt so guilty about him leaving his wife. Any feelings I had for him have long gone and now I just find him annoying, clingy and needy. For about two months now he's been absolutely perfect towards me, but it's too little too late. I find him so pitiful and pathetic now he's stopped being a blustering bully, I can't find the strength to tell him it's over. I tried last week and he sat up all night wrapped in a blanket, crying. I couldn't stand it any more so I said I'd try to carry on. I went back on Facebook over Christmas, after a year away (prompted by him trawling through ancient posts from 6/7 years ago and accusing me of all sorts), to find I'd received a message in September 2015 and hadn't seen, from a girl who said her mum had been in a relationship with him for four years, whilst he was married, and had been absolutely horrible to her mum - basically treated her the same as he treated me for most of our relationship. He'd never mentioned this relationship to me at all, whilst insisting I told him the ins and outs of every relationship I'd ever had in my life, and apparently he continued pestering the girl's mum for the first year or more whilst he was with me. Honestly I don't know where I'm going to find the strength to end this and tell him he's to leave my house and find somewhere on his own - he says he has no one but me as his son won't talk to him, and he's not that close (although not unfriendly) with his own brother and sister. Can anyone give me some pointers? I'm getting palpitations now even thinking about this but honestly I can't carry on - it's not fair on him. Any suggestions would be gratefully appreciated!