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Re: Worried I will never have a child

PostPosted: Mon Oct 30, 2017 3:22 pm
by Tarantula
Ramble away, that's what we're here for.

Once again, I will just be reiterating things I've already said. Because you're reiterating a situation that - guess what - still isn't changing in the direction you want it to.

Let me just say, for a moment, isolating everything else - I think you are an absolute glutton for punishment regarding the sex life. What a joke.

There, I said it. I had to let it out sorry.

Once again, the overall way of things in your relationship - very one-sided, you caving in out of obligation, putting you-know-what on a pedestal, you generally not living for yourself one bit.

Where does the buck stop?

I say, to heck with Xmas obligations (they're a total pain, and so unnecessary), for once in your life do what YOU want to do. Put Lee first. The same goes for the issues regarding your father. If you wanna write a letter, write a letter. You wanna go in a hotel, go in a hotel. You wanna take your generous redundancy pay-out, move out, go travel the world and then come back, start over and find a woman who can give you a more mutual arrangement.... DO IT.

I'm a radical, I know. Or am I? I mean is it radical to suggest you aim higher than such an unfulfilling situation where giving oral is 'about the best it gets'? Good grief, man! I know that longterm relationships can never reasonably expect to maintain all the passion from the beginning, but give me a break!

You're depressed, in part, because you're not being authentic. You're not being true to yourself. Every time you get a bit of a spark, a bit of mojo, a bit of zest, an idea to do something differently, something for you, something to put yourself first for a change - you shut it down with a truckload of obligation or plain old fear of the unknown and try to tell yourself that this is good enough for you.

But it's not.