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Re: I found lesbian porn on girlfriends computer!!

Post by Tarantula » Mon Oct 12, 2015 4:00 pm

Shaun I agree with johnay.

This doesn't have the significance you think it does. She is telling the truth, I believe. It's hard to explain but I get what she's saying when she says it's the sexual acts themselves that turn her on rather than being attracted to women. I'm not attracted to women but something about lesbian porn is so... kind of TABOO, maybe BECAUSE I'm not attracted to women! So it's something foreign and different for me, something that turns me on that I'd never actually partake in in real life (and it ain't the only thing).

It would be an overreaction to end the relationship over this.

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Re: I found lesbian porn on girlfriends computer!!

Post by johnay » Mon Oct 12, 2015 7:30 pm

Shaun I think Tarantula is right here.. Would you be happy to share all the porn you have watched with your partner? And would you be happy to share all of your sexual desires and fantasies with her? I think most of us will admit to having certain things that remain just with us and wouldn't want to share them even with a partner that is very liberally minded. I don't think that it has even crossed my wife's mind that I look at porn and we have never really discussed our sexual fantasies unfortunately.

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Re: I found lesbian porn on girlfriends computer!!

Post by shaun0321 » Fri Oct 16, 2015 5:52 pm

Sorry for the late reply... We've talked things through and hopefully we'll on our way to getting back on track again. If I'm honest I feel left confused by it all but as I said she means everything to me so I think I've just got to accept it and not look into it to much. I just wanted to say thankyou to you all for the advice given as it really helped me a lot! We've going away in a couple of days so I'm hoping it can wipe the slate clean and make some fantastic memories! Thanks again, shaun xx

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Re: I found lesbian porn on girlfriends computer!!

Post by Serenlas » Sun Jan 10, 2016 12:14 am

hey I just saw this Shaun, I am female, and am single so sometimes look at porn to watch, but a lot of it out there is so so awful, makes me uncomfortable, it is easier to find OK lesbian porn where the woman is not being used in a derogatory way....... AND I am straight, I love guys! but, I have never been with a girl and it never enters my head in an everyday situation, as I said I like guys. Also I think it is a greyer areas for woman than men, with regard to sleeping with the same sex, there is the machismo of being a guy so to speak which is a huge barrier to guys 'trying' out sleeping with other guys, it is a bigger deal, in our society anyways! And honestly I have hardly ever met a girl and thought about having sex with them, I of course do with guys I like conundrum!

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