Sex for first time PROBLEM!

[rebekah]

I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years and we still haven´t had sex because it hurts me toooo much! I have been to a doctor and she said i was completly normal down there and even checked me out and had no problems! Has anybody else experienced the same problems?

[highlandcow]

Sounds like it might be phsycological if you've been checked out by the docs.

Is the first time with just him or the very first time for you?

[rebekah]

yeh that is what a lot of people are saying, that it is all in my head...

First time for me completely and for him too.

[snail]

It is very common; probably more people are like this than not at first. Remember that you can get a grown baby in there so it can definitely happen! We can't be too explicit on here but you need to be as relaxed as possible, and it would probably also help if you focused on other ways of enjoying yourselves so that penetration is not so important. You might be able to get some ideas from a good quality book about sex.

[rebekah]

haha okay, thanks for suggestions

[speckledblonde]

I completely agree with snail. Sometimes it can hurt me, but if we take our time and I make sure I'm ready before actual sex, then things are good. Just take it slow, make sure he concentrates on you and maybe use other 'tools' if you think that will help.

[Bel Bel]

I think that's a good idea by speckledblond
Get yourself vibrator and take the time to get yourself used to penetration, hopefully then because you know it's physically possible you will relax with your b/f when it comes to it

[rebekah]

We have discussed vibrators before, the only problem is I don't wanna have to go in and buy it! I'd be embarressed..

[rufio89]

It's really not as bad buying vibrators as you might imagine. I would strongly recommend going into Ann Summers or somewhere like that rather than a sex shop, theyre friendly female staff, if you look embarrassed they wont ask you any questions. OR failing that, you can buy online?

[Bel Bel]

Anne summers have an on line shop and it's delivered in completely unremarkable packaging so no one will know where the parcels has come from

[snail]

I always use LoveHoney. They're completely online and the service is very good. It's all in plain packaging, and their name isn't even on the return address.

[rebekah]

brilliant thanks guys !