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Post by bloody_knife » Sun Jun 26, 2005 7:33 pm

Lately ive been gettin closer to my friend, but she always seems to be depressed about something.

She hardly ever talks about how she feels because she feels that everyone will judge her or say that she is being stupid - And a few nights ago she told me that she just really needs someone to be there for her that she can trust and have to just be there.

i feel like a really crappy mate now seeing as i probably couldnt be that person.How do you think i could help her out...? :(
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Post by nothings_shocking » Sun Jun 26, 2005 7:46 pm

Hey,
Welcome to the site :)
I understand where your friend is coming from. It takes some of us a long time to trust people. I wouldn't take it personally as she may just be like this with everyone.
You need to gain her trust.
I can remember when i moved and started a new school, it took me around 18 months to trust one person.
Has she had any bad experience with trusting people previously?
Just be there for her. Maybe you could tell her something and make her feel like you trust her? I think it is a two way thing. You need to show her you can be trusted. It's not she can't trust you, she just needs that extra part of trust.
Just continue being her friend and it could possibly lead to her telling you something.
All she needs is time. Just be her friend. Time will tell.
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Post by Jess1234 » Sun Jun 26, 2005 9:22 pm

As n_s said just be there for her as she will need a friend. Hopefully she will start to see you as someone she can open up to. If you gain her trust you will be able to help her out. Just be a good friend to her!

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Post by lilessexgal » Sun Jun 26, 2005 9:36 pm

considering what you've said mate it seems like your doing alot already and if she says she just needs someone to be there for her then be there for her its as simple as that. show her that you are there for her to talk to or if she just needs a shoulder to cry on. she will appreciate this from you so much.
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Post by brielle » Sun Jun 26, 2005 9:48 pm

your friend has probably had a lot of very hard times in the past, she wont trust anyone right away, she will need to know that you will be there for her when times are good, and when times are bad, that is the most important issue, for her.
She will open up to you and talk about her feelings with you when she fully understands that she is not going to feel trodden on for being open, she probably wants that more than anything else, it must be an awful thought to be in a cage, and you just being there will help her a lot,
:) good luck, and she could become a friend for life!
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Post by Liquidius » Mon Jun 27, 2005 9:17 am

Just be there for her :) Don't push her into talking about anything, but if she does, just be there to listen.

By the sounds of it, you're doing a pretty good job anyway :)

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