Not sure what to do about my husband. I left him 4 months ago and have moved into a place of my own with our 8 year old son, my husband is at our family home with our 14 year old son who chose to stay there.
It must be hard for him as I knew for a long time how unhappy I was in the marriage and was very down for a long time. But to him it was like a bolt from the blue and it seems hard for him to accept. I know there is no going back as I do not feel any passion for him anymore. However, I still care about him and am getting quite worried.
He just seems like he is giving up. He worries about money constantly and I am always there to help him go through the finances and have even lent him some money. He feels he is working for nothing but has no less money than he had when we were together. He doesn't ask to see our 8 year old and never has him stay over, but has just started having him for a few hours when I go to college. He was talking about going bankrupt and I managed to convince him not to do that as I didn't think it was fair for him to lumber me with the joint debt. But when I spoke to him earlier he just seems to have had enough, he doesn't even get excited about going to the gym or doing anything lately. Even though his personality is not like that anyway as I was the one who always used to get excited about things and that would boost him, but now I am not there he has gone downhill.
For the last week or so I have been feeling as though he is just going to give up on life and he hasn't said it in so many words but when I spoke to him this morning I got that impression again. He just feels so hard done by and that he will never have any luck again. I think he is suffering from depression which is understandable, but wish I could do more. The only thing I can think of doing is going back to him, but I can't do that, it's not what I want.