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by reckoner
Sun Jul 12, 2020 3:39 pm
Forum: Forum Support
Topic: Can't access old account
Replies: 8
Views: 93

Re: Can't access old account

You are most welcome :D xx
by reckoner
Thu Jul 09, 2020 9:48 pm
Forum: Forum Support
Topic: Can't access old account
Replies: 8
Views: 93

Re: Can't access old account

Well Smiler, I can certainly sort this out for you! 8)

I'll PM you so we can sort out the details and have you back up and running with your previous account. Then you can tell us what you've been up to! :D
by reckoner
Thu Jul 09, 2020 4:25 pm
Forum: Forum Support
Topic: Can't access old account
Replies: 8
Views: 93

Re: Can't access old account

It is much quieter here and not the hang out it used to be. We still get new posters and still have regular members to reply, but I think they'll be new names to you. I expect you remember Snail and peecee, the other admins still here? I'm the least technically proficient of the admins unfortunately...
by reckoner
Wed Jul 08, 2020 4:46 pm
Forum: Forum Support
Topic: Can't access old account
Replies: 8
Views: 93

Re: Can't access old account

Welcome back! I've found your old account and it looks like I was arriving here just as you were leaving but it's great to see you back! My fellow admins will no doubt remember you. I should be able to help you, but could I check: are you seeking to use your old account and reset your password with ...
by reckoner
Wed Apr 29, 2020 7:37 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Confused is not the word.
Replies: 4
Views: 1042

Re: Confused is not the word.

So: First Lady's husband still expects a New Year kiss from her; she would have gone on holiday with him if he'd wanted to (she says she wishes you'd gone with her, but not enough to have actually asked you); he still wants her to prioritise him over her friends; she hasn't told the kids she's 'sepa...
by reckoner
Sat Mar 14, 2020 5:11 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Infatuation
Replies: 6
Views: 622

Re: Infatuation

It is just 'harmless' flirting altho sometimes I think it isn't? Harmless flirting is when you exchange a bit of banter, have a bit of a giggle and think nothing more of it. It doesn't make you feel anxious and uncomfortable or result in an invitation to dinner. Inviting you for a quick coffee is o...
by reckoner
Tue Mar 10, 2020 9:39 am
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Infatuation
Replies: 6
Views: 622

Re: Infatuation

Yes, I've been infatuated with someone while in a relationship with someone else. I ended up in a relationship with him that lasted for six years. After it finished, he told me he'd never been able to trust me because of how our feelings had started. A lesson there. I may well be wrong but I can't h...
by reckoner
Tue Feb 18, 2020 10:31 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: My heart is in turmoil
Replies: 2
Views: 515

Re: My heart is in turmoil

Person42, GUDFELLA has an effective perspective on your situation. At the moment, your feelings for this person sound to me like a crush, as you say. I think crushes are a fairly normal occurrence in long term relationships. Humans are social animals and we will instinctively notice and respond to s...
by reckoner
Thu Feb 13, 2020 11:08 am
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Will I ever get over it?
Replies: 3
Views: 653

Re: Will I ever get over it?

Although it hasn't been to the same extent, your description of unresolved feelings over someone you gave up but never really got over is very familiar to me. Long story short, I believe your mind is playing tricks on you and you have to learn to appreciate what you have now without taunting yoursel...
by reckoner
Thu Oct 17, 2019 12:21 pm
Forum: And the rest...
Topic: Did i do the right thing?
Replies: 2
Views: 1331

Re: Did i do the right thing?

If he wants to have a relationship with you that you don't, there really is no other way to handle it but to tell him so, and it sounds like you've done that as firmly and fairly as you can. His persistence sounds unsettling and it's understandable if that has pushed you to being very blunt but, by ...
by reckoner
Thu Oct 03, 2019 10:56 am
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Is he normal?
Replies: 5
Views: 1069

Re: Is he normal?

Yes, I agree. It sounds like controlling and manipulative behaviour, which sounds normal for him, and so a huge red flag for you. Your post includes only negative details about him and not a single reason why you want to stay with him, yet you seem to doubt yourself about whether or not you should b...
by reckoner
Mon Sep 23, 2019 12:16 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Confused is not the word.
Replies: 4
Views: 1042

Re: Confused is not the word.

My question is if someone wants to be with you to the point they break down when you suggest stopping till they leave, would they not leave?? No, I don't think so, I'm afraid I think that's a misreading. She is currently in a situation that is comfortable for her and the kids, with you on the side....
by reckoner
Mon Sep 16, 2019 2:48 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Overbearing mother
Replies: 2
Views: 767

Re: Overbearing mother

She watches him sleep ??? :o He knows that some of what she does is not right or normal. I am at a loss as to how to help him and get him to fully understand that her behaviour and obsessiveness with him is ruining any chance of him having a relationship with anyone. I think your main problem here i...
by reckoner
Thu Aug 29, 2019 8:32 pm
Forum: Friends
Topic: wondering if I expect too much?
Replies: 1
Views: 1322

Re: wondering if I expect too much?

I'm really sorry the fertility treatment hasn't worked this time. I think it sounds like good news that the doctor wants to do more tests - I would take this to mean that a) you are in good health with good reason to have hope and b) you are close to finding out anything that is wrong that is not im...
by reckoner
Wed Aug 14, 2019 2:03 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Am I being unreasonable?
Replies: 3
Views: 951

Re: Am I being unreasonable?

Congratulations on your engagement! We live in the countryside and want to make a paragliding entrance with our entourage of pilot friends :) Seriously?! Wow! Can your fiancé give you a price that he does think is reasonable for the tent? Is there a chance that he doesn't like it as much as he says ...