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by reckoner
Thu Oct 17, 2019 12:21 pm
Forum: And the rest...
Topic: Did i do the right thing?
Replies: 2
Views: 378

Re: Did i do the right thing?

If he wants to have a relationship with you that you don't, there really is no other way to handle it but to tell him so, and it sounds like you've done that as firmly and fairly as you can. His persistence sounds unsettling and it's understandable if that has pushed you to being very blunt but, by ...
by reckoner
Thu Oct 03, 2019 10:56 am
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Is he normal?
Replies: 5
Views: 413

Re: Is he normal?

Yes, I agree. It sounds like controlling and manipulative behaviour, which sounds normal for him, and so a huge red flag for you. Your post includes only negative details about him and not a single reason why you want to stay with him, yet you seem to doubt yourself about whether or not you should b...
by reckoner
Mon Sep 23, 2019 12:16 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Confused is not the word.
Replies: 1
Views: 278

Re: Confused is not the word.

My question is if someone wants to be with you to the point they break down when you suggest stopping till they leave, would they not leave?? No, I don't think so, I'm afraid I think that's a misreading. She is currently in a situation that is comfortable for her and the kids, with you on the side....
by reckoner
Mon Sep 16, 2019 2:48 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Overbearing mother
Replies: 2
Views: 315

Re: Overbearing mother

She watches him sleep ??? :o He knows that some of what she does is not right or normal. I am at a loss as to how to help him and get him to fully understand that her behaviour and obsessiveness with him is ruining any chance of him having a relationship with anyone. I think your main problem here i...
by reckoner
Thu Aug 29, 2019 8:32 pm
Forum: Friends
Topic: wondering if I expect too much?
Replies: 1
Views: 400

Re: wondering if I expect too much?

I'm really sorry the fertility treatment hasn't worked this time. I think it sounds like good news that the doctor wants to do more tests - I would take this to mean that a) you are in good health with good reason to have hope and b) you are close to finding out anything that is wrong that is not im...
by reckoner
Wed Aug 14, 2019 2:03 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Am I being unreasonable?
Replies: 3
Views: 439

Re: Am I being unreasonable?

Congratulations on your engagement! We live in the countryside and want to make a paragliding entrance with our entourage of pilot friends :) Seriously?! Wow! Can your fiancé give you a price that he does think is reasonable for the tent? Is there a chance that he doesn't like it as much as he says ...
by reckoner
Tue Jul 02, 2019 1:27 pm
Forum: Children
Topic: 4th failed IVF cycle, so sad
Replies: 2
Views: 689

Re: 4th failed IVF cycle, so sad

Hi spacegirl, I'm so sorry to read this. Friends of mine are in the middle of their first IVF attempt so I'm learning what this involves - the physical and emotional investment required. I can only imagine how devastating it must be for you and your partner for a fourth attempt to end in failure. I ...
by reckoner
Tue Jun 18, 2019 11:28 am
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Finally out!!!!
Replies: 8
Views: 823

Re: Finally out!!!!

I am SO GLAD to hear from you, most especially with such fantastic news!!!! Have thought about you often, with worry and also hope, and am SO GLAD to know this. Thank you so much for letting us know. Only have time for a very quick message now but just had to respond, even just very quickly. If you ...
by reckoner
Wed Jun 05, 2019 2:43 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Dating again
Replies: 2
Views: 631

Re: Dating again

I have to say, first of all, that I don't have any dating experience as such and am not familiar with any established dating etiquette that there may be, so I'm just going on what seems right to me. is it ok to speak to more than one woman about dating? Do you mean 'while dating'? If so, yes, I woul...
by reckoner
Sat May 04, 2019 1:45 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Newly married but little to no intimacy
Replies: 4
Views: 943

Re: Newly married but little to no intimacy

Hi Mr Lee, boulding's post didn't say that you demand sex; I think her point is that asking for sex is not romantic and unlikely to put your wife in the mood for it. For example, at the beginning of a relationship, you wouldn't just ask the other person for sex. You'd probably spend a lot of time tr...
by reckoner
Sun Apr 14, 2019 1:19 pm
Forum: Mental wellbeing
Topic: Mid life crisis?
Replies: 3
Views: 593

Re: Mid life crisis?

I think what you have described is the goal-orientated way we're all generally led to think about the progress of life: get a degree, a job, get married, buy a house, have kids etc. These are the all the firework moments in life. The older you get, the fewer and further these firework moments become...
by reckoner
Mon Mar 04, 2019 2:28 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Wish I didn't have to want sex...
Replies: 1
Views: 1009

Re: Wish I didn't have to want sex...

Hi there, With regard to your first point, having a sex drive is a good thing - you'll find enough people on here that are concerned about not having one. Like an apetite for food, libido is a sign of health. Wshing you didn't have a sex drive is like wishing you had a sign of poor health. I underst...
by reckoner
Wed Feb 27, 2019 8:50 pm
Forum: Siblings
Topic: sister in a unstable relationship and mum making things worst
Replies: 1
Views: 705

Re: sister in a unstable relationship and mum making things worst

Hi Sara, From what you've said about your sister and your family here and in other posts, your sister's behaviour is at least understandable, if obviously not acceptable. It would have been a miracle for her to come through everything you've told us about without showing some bad effects. I think yo...
by reckoner
Sat Feb 23, 2019 11:40 am
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Moving Forward with or without him.
Replies: 1
Views: 793

Re: Moving Forward with or without him.

Hi there, I agree with the part of you that says 'leave it'. It sounds to me like the two of you were always potential partners / exes rather than genuine friends, certainly from his perspective. I think that's why you never heard from him about the girlfriend or the baby until it was already six mo...
by reckoner
Tue Jan 08, 2019 3:24 pm
Forum: Chit Chat
Topic: Member Introductions: Say "Hello!"
Replies: 485
Views: 119738

Re: Member Introductions: Say "Hello!"

Hi brfc, good to see you back! Time flies, doesn't it? Happy New Year to you and all on here! Gosh, it's already a week old...