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by rufio89
Wed Oct 11, 2017 7:15 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: A girl I managed to create a rapport with....
Replies: 5
Views: 2269

Re: A girl I managed to create a rapport with....

I agree with the others but I'd like to add - make sure you're being realistic. It always rings HUGE alarm bells when people describe a prospective partner as 'perfect'. She isn't perfect. I'm sure she's a great girl and has a lot of excellent qualities, but she's also human, falliable and will have...
by rufio89
Wed Sep 20, 2017 3:27 pm
Forum: Children
Topic: Any new parents out there?
Replies: 3
Views: 1893

Re: Any new parents out there?

Hi HLC. I don't come on here often anymore so I hadn't seen this until now - hopefully there's been some improvement already. I don't have children myself but - what feels like - all of my sisters and female friends had babies in the last 18 months so I've been hearing a lot about it recently. It's ...
by rufio89
Tue Aug 01, 2017 8:27 pm
Forum: Chit Chat
Topic: Anyone remember me?
Replies: 12
Views: 7967

Re: Anyone remember me?

Hi! I don't tend to come on here much these days but I do keep an eye :)

I'm so glad things worked out for you :) I also got married just over a year ago, isn't it nice to see we don't all stay in the dumps forever!! :) =D>
by rufio89
Thu Sep 08, 2016 8:26 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Still in love with and used by ex
Replies: 4
Views: 1503

Re: Still in love with and used by ex

Cut him off. Completely. He's toxic, this "relationship" is toxic and although he's clearly far MORE in the wrong, it is an absolutely terrible thing to do to sleep with someone elses husband. This isn't good for you, it isn't fair on her and it's all round just terrible. There's no magic trick to t...
by rufio89
Sun Aug 14, 2016 9:01 pm
Forum: Chit Chat
Topic: Photo thread
Replies: 589
Views: 139262

Re: Photo thread

Hello everyone. I thought some of the old-timers might like to hear that I got married a couple of weeks ago (who'd have thought it!).

Here's one of our pictures

https://postimg.org/image/vvg0azbwp/
by rufio89
Fri May 13, 2016 8:54 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Husband hides money and lies :(
Replies: 4
Views: 1557

Re: Husband hides money and lies :(

I hadn't replied because I didnt feel I had anything helpful to add, but I agree with David. Also for what it's worth, this is a genuine problem, and certainly not a "non problem". Start prioritising you and your physical and mental health. Hugs.
by rufio89
Mon Mar 21, 2016 9:25 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Desperate to save my marriage
Replies: 13
Views: 6675

Re: Desperate to save my marriage

I agree 100% with Mr Confused
by rufio89
Wed Mar 02, 2016 10:18 am
Forum: Parents
Topic: Unjustified complaint of untidiness
Replies: 4
Views: 2338

Re: Unjustified complaint of untidiness

I have to say I agree with David... when I moved out I was earning £700 a month and my rent and utilities took up £500 of that. Things were tight but staying in your parents house as an adult is good for noone. I eventually found myself in a better position through a housesharing site - spareroom.co...
by rufio89
Tue Jan 19, 2016 10:32 am
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: [please delete]
Replies: 20
Views: 5689

Re: New guy problems

I know this isnt what you want to hear, but honestly I'm on his side on this one. Divorce is messy, can be complicated and expensive. Snail posted a good response to the earlier part of this topic a while ago and I think a lot of that still rings true here. He obviously cares about you a great deal,...
by rufio89
Mon Nov 16, 2015 8:37 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: post break-up advice please
Replies: 5
Views: 1543

Re: post break-up advice please

I dont want to sound too harsh but honestly I just read this imagining how much more sympathetic I'd be from the other side: You're calling/texting her incessantly months later, turning up at her house uninvited and obsessively checking her facebook etc? I know it's hard breaking up with someone and...
by rufio89
Sun Aug 30, 2015 9:50 am
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: should i leave him or not?
Replies: 2
Views: 930

Re: should i leave him or not?

Bluntly, I think yes, you should end it. I'm sure your relationship has had it's good points, and it doesn't sound like either of you are bad partners, but unfortunately, what you both want out of life doesn't match up, and neither one of you is being unreasonable in your expectations. At the end of...
by rufio89
Wed Aug 26, 2015 6:22 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: using me
Replies: 3
Views: 1147

Re: using me

Tell him to f-off!! This guy's treating you like jelly! Seriously, even telling him where to go is more than he deserves, just ignore him!
by rufio89
Sat Aug 22, 2015 11:37 am
Forum: Mental wellbeing
Topic: Need to clear my head
Replies: 20
Views: 8445

Re: Need to clear my head

I agree with David. If you're 21 and in a relationship with a schoolgirl then you're playing a dangerous game - it sounds from your post like she's a lot younger than you and if it's already been going on for 4 years, well then Im afraid I would have to side with the girls parents. I'm quite sure he...
by rufio89
Wed Aug 19, 2015 1:01 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Haunted by ex
Replies: 8
Views: 2279

Re: Haunted by ex

I agree with Reckoner and Snails far more constructive advice. I didn't mean to sound harsh, I was just surprised.

Reckoner puts some good perspectives across.
by rufio89
Tue Aug 18, 2015 9:41 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Haunted by ex
Replies: 8
Views: 2279

Re: Haunted by ex

Let me get this straight - you're working yourself into knots over a boyfriend your wife had TWENTY SEVEN years ago, who now is happily married and with whom she keeps a very casual line of acquaintance? I think this is your own issues you need to work on, she's doing nothing wrong and frankly it's ...