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by Tarantula
Sun May 17, 2020 12:24 pm
Forum: Mental wellbeing
Topic: He has made me feel like ending it all
Replies: 1
Views: 187

Re: He has made me feel like ending it all

Hi there I sympathise with your situation and feel that there's little I can say that, as an addiction counsellor, you do not already know. So, fine, let me say things that you already know deep down, but are perhaps not ready to accept. Your presence in his life is enabling his addiction. He doesn'...
by Tarantula
Mon May 11, 2020 1:38 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Confused is not the word.
Replies: 4
Views: 796

Re: Confused is not the word.

Reckoner dropping them truth bombs. Sorry to be the hysterical woman from the Simpsons, but will somebody please think of the children?? I mean, what kind of example are you all modelling for your kids' future relationships. All this sleeping around, drinking, on/off, lies, low status behaviour... i...
by Tarantula
Wed Apr 15, 2020 1:06 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Obsessed with a guy I barely know
Replies: 2
Views: 314

Re: Obsessed with a guy I barely know

Heya, I think you should do nothing. He already knows you're keen - but he hasn't asked you out. I'm sorry, he's just not that into you. He doesn't sound shy, if he's happy to kiss you and tell you how beautiful you are. Most likely, he's in a relationship. You've already made enough moves. Approach...
by Tarantula
Sat Mar 14, 2020 8:05 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Infatuation
Replies: 6
Views: 379

Re: Infatuation

Yeah I mean if you go for dinner with him, that's not on. You're literally accepting to go out with a man you find attractive, who asked to spend time with you one on one. In the evening. No one is that naive. Hope you don't lie to your boyfriend going 'it's just a friend thing!!!!!!' I'd think very...
by Tarantula
Tue Mar 10, 2020 8:20 am
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Infatuation
Replies: 6
Views: 379

Re: Infatuation

I feel bad for your man. I mean you say you haven't done anything wrong, but I'm not sure. Feelings are one thing - specifically buying new outfits/dressing up etc so that another man notices you - that's crossing a line. Beak up with your partner if it's so easy for some random older guy to get you...
by Tarantula
Wed Mar 04, 2020 3:50 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: What are his intentions?
Replies: 1
Views: 255

Re: What are his intentions?

Never mind him, what are YOUR intentions? He's got a girlfriend. I'd stay out of it if I were you. This is a recipe for drama and hurt feelings. You know there's no 'being friends' with someone you've dated, one or both of you will be hoping it goes somewhere, and one of you will end up disappointed...
by Tarantula
Tue Mar 03, 2020 6:11 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: When is it right?
Replies: 2
Views: 269

Re: When is it right?

Agree with snail (again). Dating around is fine, sleeping around isn't. It just gets complicated from that point and someone ends up with the hurtings. If either ask about your status, be honest, say you're speaking to a few women and seeing how things go. Then bring the conversation back to her and...
by Tarantula
Tue Mar 03, 2020 6:08 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Social media boundaries
Replies: 4
Views: 424

Re: Social media boundaries

Hey there, 29yo engaged lady here, though I believe that doesn't really matter as I reckon most men would not be happy if their partner was doing this, either - yeah, agree with snail, totally inappropes. Disrespectful to you and your relationship - ESPECIALLY if he carries on once you've brought it...
by Tarantula
Fri Feb 14, 2020 9:58 am
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Will I ever get over it?
Replies: 3
Views: 479

Re: Will I ever get over it?

Hey there I agree with reckoner's very thoughtful input, and would like to add a practical suggestion: Have you thought about writing him a letter, or even meeting in person? I know that nothing quite eats you up inside like things left unsaid, and at this point, what have you to lose? Of course, su...
by Tarantula
Fri Jan 17, 2020 1:11 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Break up / reconciliation?
Replies: 3
Views: 418

Re: Break up / reconciliation?

She's a liar and you should tell her ex's poor girlfriend so that she isn't wasting more time. But that would require some guts. I don't know if you have them? Of course she and her ex got busy whilst on holiday - to believe anything else would be horribly naive. Think about it. They were together b...
by Tarantula
Sat Jan 04, 2020 11:04 am
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Do i walk away??
Replies: 3
Views: 461

Re: Do i walk away??

Hmmmm sounds pretty intense. I don't think he's done anything wrong, but he seems to have trust issues and perhaps it's all moving too quickly for him. I know you meant that comment flippantly, but if he has been cheated on in the past then it would've come across as 'if you don't want me, I'll go o...
by Tarantula
Mon Nov 11, 2019 5:00 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: I've slept with someone else while on a break!
Replies: 6
Views: 753

Re: I've slept with someone else while on a break!

Hey ^^ Lol so direct, boulding. But I agree. You say it's going to take 'a lot of work' before you trust him again... but you're still seeing him, giving him your time and possibly more. As far as he's concerned, it's back on. You can say what you want to him about how you don't trust him, but the v...
by Tarantula
Sun Nov 10, 2019 1:53 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: I've slept with someone else while on a break!
Replies: 6
Views: 753

Re: I've slept with someone else while on a break!

Hi there Whoa, breathe, lady! You remind me of me when I was your age... ten years ago, lol. With that in mind, here are my thoughts: - Watch the alcohol. You don't mention it but I assume when you're going out, you're getting drunk and all that which is fine, having fun, it's okay... so long as you...
by Tarantula
Mon Oct 21, 2019 2:11 pm
Forum: Siblings
Topic: Worried about my brother
Replies: 9
Views: 4394

Re: Worried about my brother

Thanks spacegirl. You're absolutely right, of course. Well, we eventually got back in touch. It wasn't really the kind of reconciliation I was secretly hoping for, but he ended up visiting me here for a few days, which passed peacefully. I made sure my partner was around as much as possible. Since t...
by Tarantula
Mon Oct 14, 2019 8:09 am
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Break Up
Replies: 5
Views: 703

Re: Break Up

Hey Claire Yeah, I think it's definitely time to move on with your head held high. At least he's being honest, and since you spent such a huge chunk of your lives together, I figure he's not a bad guy? Perhaps an amicable split is possible. It sounds like you want marriage and kids, but it doesn't s...