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Hello again! Yes, of course we remember you and have often wondered what had happened. That's excellent news. When you have time to give us more details, we will be here.

I think you have every right to be angry. The way he announced this - the utter unawareness of, or just disregard for, your feelings - is in keeping with other things you've said about him. To be honest, when you posted before about his saying he didn't want children, I felt that you should leave hi...

That does sound rather one-sided. Sometimes it can simply be that people make assumptions or get into habits though, and just don't think about it. Have you tried asking her to pay for things? It can be awkward but you could just say in a matter-of-fact way and as though it were a foregone conclusio...

Well, the flirty banter or even the hug could be platonic, but placing her hand on your bum is explicitly sexual. Whether she actually wants a relationship with you only she can say, but there's certainly sexual interest there.

Well, why do you think this is affecting you so much now, after all this time? There must be some reason it has come up again in your mind. What if she did lie, because she was scared - would it change how you feel now? If not, does it matter? What if she just deleted anything that could possibly be...

I think most people are in touch with more than one person at a time; the way I have done it is to assume that each of you is seeing other people and that's OK, until you agree that you're exclusive. Otherwise it would take such a long time, if you had to see each contact through to the very end bef...

A big thanks to the members who posted replies, but since Steve originally posted this problem exactly nine years ago, it should be resolved by now.

I think I would stay put, if you can. The practical reasons for this are, firstly, you can always change your mind and go at a later date if you really can't stand it, but once you have gone you can't come back. Secondly, why should you be the one to leave your job, family, friends etc, to avoid the...

Well she's been fairly clear. I assume when you confessed about the prostitute she realised that you hadn't broken it off because you were in a relationship with someone else, and that is why she came out with this proposal. She must think you have desirable qualities in some way, more so than anyon...

Your role in being there and hearing him talk, with caring but without judgement, must be very healing for him. If he won't act on any suggestions I'm not sure what else you can practically do. I understand exactly what he means about therapy being a cash grab - it's hard to believe a therapist care...

I wouldn't engage with her in any way at all if I were you - it's just wasted energy and delays the time when you begin to feel better. I had a similar thing happen to me - if you're the sort of person that is conscientious, committed, prone to self-doubt/low self-esteem, and has a sincere desire fo...

Do you want to go on trying with the IVF?

I'm really impressed that you went to marriage counselling; that must have been a hard thing to sort out, and very stressful to do as well. It's interesting and admirable that he went with you - he must be very committed to making things better, for him to do that? With regard to things like Faceboo...

We can create a thread about veganism in the Chit Chat section, to thrash out the rights and wrongs. We can move posts already made from this thread, so the discussion can continue there without anyone having to repeat any posts. Anyone who would like this, just let us know, either by posting here o...

David020549 wrote: you and the kids much worse off.

I think this member's children are grown up and independent, so that is one thing she won't have to worry about.