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I'm so glad to hear it's finally over and you can start to re-build your life and have a good time now, Glasgowgirl. One good thing that will come from all this suffering is that you'll be stronger in your own self-confidence and opinions now and you'll always spot the signs if someone tries to do t...

Nearly 15 years for you, S_S, and 12 for me

We're fine, BRFC, how are you these days?

I really do believe we are soulmates I'll say to you something that someone on this site once said to me when I was in a very similar situation and that I found helpful - soulmates goes both ways . Your soulmate wouldn't dump you out of the blue when you seemed to be getting on so well. Your soulma...

Hello again! Yes, of course we remember you and have often wondered what had happened. That's excellent news. When you have time to give us more details, we will be here.

I think you have every right to be angry. The way he announced this - the utter unawareness of, or just disregard for, your feelings - is in keeping with other things you've said about him. To be honest, when you posted before about his saying he didn't want children, I felt that you should leave hi...

That does sound rather one-sided. Sometimes it can simply be that people make assumptions or get into habits though, and just don't think about it. Have you tried asking her to pay for things? It can be awkward but you could just say in a matter-of-fact way and as though it were a foregone conclusio...

Well, the flirty banter or even the hug could be platonic, but placing her hand on your bum is explicitly sexual. Whether she actually wants a relationship with you only she can say, but there's certainly sexual interest there.

Well, why do you think this is affecting you so much now, after all this time? There must be some reason it has come up again in your mind. What if she did lie, because she was scared - would it change how you feel now? If not, does it matter? What if she just deleted anything that could possibly be...

I think most people are in touch with more than one person at a time; the way I have done it is to assume that each of you is seeing other people and that's OK, until you agree that you're exclusive. Otherwise it would take such a long time, if you had to see each contact through to the very end bef...

A big thanks to the members who posted replies, but since Steve originally posted this problem exactly nine years ago, it should be resolved by now.

I think I would stay put, if you can. The practical reasons for this are, firstly, you can always change your mind and go at a later date if you really can't stand it, but once you have gone you can't come back. Secondly, why should you be the one to leave your job, family, friends etc, to avoid the...

Well she's been fairly clear. I assume when you confessed about the prostitute she realised that you hadn't broken it off because you were in a relationship with someone else, and that is why she came out with this proposal. She must think you have desirable qualities in some way, more so than anyon...

Your role in being there and hearing him talk, with caring but without judgement, must be very healing for him. If he won't act on any suggestions I'm not sure what else you can practically do. I understand exactly what he means about therapy being a cash grab - it's hard to believe a therapist care...

I wouldn't engage with her in any way at all if I were you - it's just wasted energy and delays the time when you begin to feel better. I had a similar thing happen to me - if you're the sort of person that is conscientious, committed, prone to self-doubt/low self-esteem, and has a sincere desire fo...