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by David020549
Mon Oct 29, 2018 6:35 pm
Forum: Friends
Topic: Very confusing
Replies: 3
Views: 725

Re: Very confusing

Some people are very careful what they share, even with close friends, women in particular are very careful with relationship history, they only tell you what they want you to know and I would never ask. That applies to older relatives as well, younger ones I have grown up with knowing most of the h...
by David020549
Thu Oct 18, 2018 10:44 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Fiancé doesn't help me...
Replies: 4
Views: 1214

Re: Fiancé doesn't help me...

Sorry rarity it sounds like you have a looser as a partner, there is no reason whatsoever that a man that has been accepted for a university course cannot earn money. He must have gained some qualifications, no excuses, there are plenty of jobs, even if it is stacking shelves. Only you can decide wh...
by David020549
Fri Oct 12, 2018 8:25 pm
Forum: Friends
Topic: Friends all gone quiet
Replies: 6
Views: 1065

Re: Friends all gone quiet

As your past friends don't contact each other, it seems to me that everybody has moved on, work and relationships have taken them in different directions, so you are in exactly the same position as they are. By all means make contact and try to arrange a reunion of some sort, but beware, if some of ...
by David020549
Tue Oct 02, 2018 1:26 pm
Forum: Friends
Topic: Friends all gone quiet
Replies: 6
Views: 1065

Re: Friends all gone quiet

You chose to have private wedding with no fuss and no party, nothing wrong with that although it's not surprising that your friends assumed that you wanted a private life, they aren't offended, just drifted away. It's only 3 yrs invite them to a party, a few at a time if you need to, it's rather lat...
by David020549
Mon Sep 24, 2018 8:07 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Is there more to this?
Replies: 2
Views: 1128

Re: Is there more to this?

I would say that after a year she is bored with you, as you say responding to texts that are not urgent when you are together is just plain rude and shows she isn't bothered about you. She may even have decided that it isn't going to last but hasn't found anyone else as a companion, probably time fo...
by David020549
Thu Sep 06, 2018 5:34 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: NEED ADVICE ON STRANGE THING GIRLFRIEND SAID
Replies: 10
Views: 1763

Re: NEED ADVICE ON STRANGE THING GIRLFRIEND SAID

Not an ideal situation but probably not that unusual and fairly easily explained. Your girlfriend has no doubt had several relationships but no one has stayed with her, her body clock is telling her she need to have children now and she has decided to go it alone. She is asking you to be the father,...
by David020549
Tue Aug 28, 2018 10:14 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Slow painful decline in marriage
Replies: 4
Views: 1239

Re: Slow painful decline in marriage

You are fairly young, 40s? maybe and your wife is refusing any intimacy, that is really hard, she knows you are bugged by it, you have been to therapy together and no change. I have to ask does she actually " Like " you anymore?, whatever her problem is most men would think it unreasonable. This lad...
by David020549
Sun Aug 26, 2018 1:48 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Things are getting worse.. I need some serious advice.
Replies: 8
Views: 1471

Re: Things are getting worse.. I need some serious advice.

I didn't tackle the personal side deliberately because sort the business out, in whatever way, the rest will sort itself out.
Maybe the Cafe will continue maybe not, deciding the way forward is the important part.
by David020549
Sun Aug 26, 2018 7:11 am
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Things are getting worse.. I need some serious advice.
Replies: 8
Views: 1471

Re: Things are getting worse.. I need some serious advice.

It's easy to start up a new business, but very hard to admit failure, swallow your pride and give it up but 75% of new businesses do just that. The classic is a couple who take on the tenancy of a pub, you will have seen pubs closing in every town and village, the market has changed and nobody is go...
by David020549
Sat Aug 25, 2018 5:32 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Things are getting worse.. I need some serious advice.
Replies: 8
Views: 1471

Re: Things are getting worse.. I need some serious advice.

My wife ran a restaurant for 13 yrs so we know your problems, it was always difficult getting through the quiet periods, a lot depends on location, who your customers are and what the competition is?. My first reaction is do both of you need to work full time at the Cafe if there were a second incom...
by David020549
Sat Aug 25, 2018 1:43 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: Things are getting worse.. I need some serious advice.
Replies: 8
Views: 1471

Re: Things are getting worse.. I need some serious advice.

You need to explain what the business problem is, as much detail as possible, including any financial problems. I know quite a few businesses that have struggled for years, just managing to get by.
by David020549
Sat Aug 25, 2018 7:14 am
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: How to stop this 10 years on?
Replies: 18
Views: 2469

Re: How to stop this 10 years on?

There is no middle way, the court acts in the best interests of the children, unless there is a very good reason not to ( drugs, vice, instability) the mother will get custody of young children and the father will get access unless he has been convicted of violence or some other major crime. If he d...
by David020549
Tue Aug 21, 2018 7:31 am
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: How to stop this 10 years on?
Replies: 18
Views: 2469

Re: How to stop this 10 years on?

Be very carefull not to wind your new partner up so much that he does something silly, he is your security, he is important, the police will take action if there is physical violence, if it's just intimidation and harassment you are on your own. So you need to be calm and not try to score points.
by David020549
Sun Aug 19, 2018 10:14 pm
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: How to stop this 10 years on?
Replies: 18
Views: 2469

Re: How to stop this 10 years on?

Glad to hear you're a fighter, make sure you keep a diary week by week listing all the hassle he gives you, if you can record what is said all the better, it's fairly easy to do discretely with memory chips. You may need it as evidence in the future, if not you will have the satisfaction that you ca...
by David020549
Sun Aug 19, 2018 9:13 am
Forum: Girlfriends & Boyfriends - Husbands & Wives
Topic: How to stop this 10 years on?
Replies: 18
Views: 2469

Re: How to stop this 10 years on?

My deepest sympathy there are a great many women in your situation with an abusive man who has access rights to the children, quite often their main aim in life is to make your life as difficult and unpleasant as possible. You could go back to court but he will make his excuses, promise to obey inst...